There really was a time when I believed being kind, respectful, patient, and understanding would naturally lead to good outcomes in life.
I believed if you treated people well, they would treat you well in return.
I believed loyalty would be appreciated.
I believed honesty would be rewarded.
Life is not always that simple.
Sometimes you watch people lie, manipulate, cheat, use others, step on people, and somehow end up ahead.
Meanwhile, the person trying to do everything the right way struggles, waits, sacrifices, and wonders why nothing seems to be moving.
When you witness enough of that, you begin to understand why some people become cold.
Not because they were born that way.
Not because they enjoy hurting people.
But because disappointment has a way of changing people.
Repeated betrayal changes people.
Repeated rejection changes people.
Being overlooked changes people.
Feeling like your kindness is constantly being mistaken for weakness changes people.
Many cold-hearted people were once some of the warmest people you could ever meet.
They gave chances.
They forgave.
They helped.
They trusted.
Until life taught them lessons they never expected to learn.
That does not mean becoming cruel is the answer or maybe sometimes you have to be.
Some people got that way because operating from wounds, disappointments, and experiences that hardened them over time. I’m really getting to that point.
I am beginning to understand why some people make certain choices to get ahead.
Not because I necessarily agree with every choice but I understand choices in life right now aren’t that good.
But because I can see the frustration behind it.
When someone feels like every honest route has led nowhere, they may begin looking at shortcuts.
When someone feels like playing fair has only brought struggle, they may begin questioning the rules altogether looking at the same options others have taken.
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